Better Conversations Chapter 5
(Suggested Completion Date: August 10th)
We are to the halfway point in the book and this chapter is all about asking better questions. To excel at asking better questions there are three strategies to practice:
- Be curious
- Ask open, opinion questions
- Be nonjudgmental
Making use of the comment feature at the bottom of this post discuss the following questions.
- Which of the “false question types” do you find yourself asking most often (93)?
- Why is it so difficult to ask authentic, open questions?
- What would happen if you became better at asking better questions during conversations?
Feel free to reply to others comments.
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1. Which of the “false question types” do you find yourself asking most often (93)?
This is hard to answer, but I think it would have to be demand questions, or sometimes with my children angry questions.
2. Why is it so difficult to ask authentic, open questions?
I think it is difficult to answer authentic, open questions, because we don’t always want answers. By nature, we are self-centered, and don’t always want to listen to other people. We may be afraid of the answers that we get or worried we won’t have a good response.
3. What would happen if you became better at asking better questions during conversations?
If I could become better at asking better questions during conversations, I would learn more about other people. I would make better connections with people, and be able to learn more from other people.
1. Which of the “false question types” do you find yourself asking most often (93)? I think it depends on who I am communicating with as to what type of false questioning I use most. I hate to say but, in my marriage, I probably use set-up questioning a lot. Probably the next type of false questioning I use the most is demand questioning.
2. Why is it so difficult to ask authentic, open questions? I think it is difficult because I concentrate on what my reply is going to be instead of really listening.
3. What would happen if you became better at asking better questions during conversation? I think I would be able to participate in much better conversations and I would learn more!